Are you in the same old rut you’ve been in for awhile? Is sex something you feel is repetitive, lacking excitement, and doesn’t hold the draw for you that it used to? I have felt like that at times, and before someone told me this, I felt like I was fighting and uphill battle.
Well, unfortunately, that can happen in marriage without us realizing it. But there are ways to put life back into your marriage again! And back into your sex life!
Creativity is important for getting you out of that rut – do something out of the norm! His fire will roar, and yours will too!
Some suggestions:
1. This is a “DUH” suggestion: buy some spicy lingerie – something he hasn’t ever seen you wear. A shelf bra, a see through lacy babydoll, a corset with thigh-high fishnet stockings – just something a little racier than you usually wear. He will appreciate it! A great place to shop for that lil’ something is Fredericks of Hollywood. (Caution – very racy! Don’t open at work!)
2. Buy some fun stuff for the bedroom – warming lubricant, flavored lubricant, sexy dice, or my personal favorite, Kama Sutra Body Powder
You’ll be glad you did!
3. I highly recommend this – try having boudoir photography done! Make sure you go with a photographer who has a pretty extensive portfolio, is a woman, and is well-respected in the community. If you are in the Texas area, I can give some recommendations (just email me!). Get your hair and make up done, and have these sexy photos taken of you that will get your husband’s heart pumping! Stick a 5×7 in his briefcase to take to work with a little note “I’ll be waiting for you when you get home!”, and when he sees it, he will be racing home to get to you! There are all kinds of possibilities with this, and its definitely out of the norm! If you are uncomfortable with this, its completely understandable. I was too!!! Professional photographers are trained and know how to position you so any flaws or areas you are uncomfortable with aren’t showing or are minimized. Find someone you have a great repertoire with, and you will end up loving it.
4. Try doing something in bed you haven’t done before. Let him kiss or touch you in a new place, or encourage him to tell you something he has wanted to do, and be willing to try it. Now, I do think there are limits, but within your comfort zone, be willing to try new things. I will explore this in more detail in a later post.
5. Pray together at night. What? I know this isn’t “sexual”, but prayer is incredibly intimate. If you aren’t already praying together, try it, and you will see the intimacy between you and your husband grow.
6. Take a weekend away from everything. Stay at a B&B, a nice hotel, or rent a cabin! Focus on each other, do things you enjoy and haven’t done in awhile, and ignore the world. Try to have sex as much as you can – it will force you to be creative!
7. My husband and I are currently doing the 7 Day Sex Challenge and it is so awesome – go do it! That’s all I’m going to say about that. 
8. Try having sex in your kitchen. In your backyard! In your guest bedroom. Anywhere OUTSIDE of your bedroom – because ten bucks says that’s where you have sex most of the time. If you are feeling really ambitious, try it next time you are out in a place where you can sneak away, like a wedding.
9. Text your husband while he is out, at work, etc., and tell him you aren’t wearing any panties. Then, when he gets home, let him take you! Or, a variation of this, go out with him somewhere, and DON’T wear any panties. See if he figures this out on his own (my husband always seems to figure it out!!!). If he doesn’t whisper in his ear, “Baby, I don’t seem to have any panties on! What can we do about that?” with a knowing wink, and he will go crazy.
10. Try playing with fun foods, like whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate, or anything else that floats y’all’s boat. Play with it IN BED. You will need to wash the sheets afterwards, but it will be worth it.
What suggestions for creativity do you have?